Wednesday, February 26, 2014

Tiny Talk - episode three: feeling lost

This episode of Tiny Talk I think can relate to a few different issues that people encounter over their lives. From choosing GCSE's and A Level's, to deciding if you want to go to university, or even if you are having a career crisis like myself.

Life throws many different problems and decisions your way, and only you can decide what is the right choice for you. I think feeling lost is an issue that a lot of people seem to face around the 20 year old mark, unless you're super organised and you have got your life together somehow. I kind of envy those people; I am so indecisive that I change my mind about what I want to do, or where I want to go, every single day. One day I can feel like I know exactly where I am in life, then the next I could be borderline breakdown because I will feel so lost. So if you are at university or college, or you are about to be going to something like that, just remember that you don't have to follow the line of your degree or course after you graduate. It's not the end of the world if you choose to do something completely different - who cares as long as you're happy?!

If you are feeling lost and you don't even know why, then believe me I know that feeling too. Some days you just wake up and get that feeling that you just have no idea what you're doing with your life, or why you are where you are. The only advice I can give for that is to just ride it out - which is exactly what I am doing. There have been times where I have wondered why the hell I am doing what I am doing because I am just not enjoying it. But I keep thinking that at one point I thought this was a good idea and that it would benefit me in some way in the future - so why should I give it up now just to probably regret it later on in life? Always stick something out until the end, because you only regret the things you don't do

At the same time, if you're feeling lost in relation to something you're doing e.g. a university course, or your job, try a new way of doing it. Whether this be handwriting some things instead of being glued to your laptop 24 hours a day, or switch up your daily routine. Doing things differently can reignite your love for something that you thought you had lost. 

Alternatively, just do something you love! If you're feeling lost, just stop and do something that you know you enjoy doing. I do this with my blog. If I feel down or lost, I come straight here and just do some writing, whether I publish it or not, because I love it I feel a lot better. Try this with reading, or if you can draw go doodle something. A long walk can always solve any problem too; it's great for reflecting on everything, especially if you live down by the sea like I do. Grab your iPod, or a friend if there is one nearby, and just go for a stroll. 

I hope that this helps anyone feeling a bit down like me, and if you have any more tips then leave them in the comments below.

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See you again next time for episode four of Tiny Talk!

You can read Little Boots' version of this HERE.

Monday, February 24, 2014

A little bit of pixie dust

Something people ask me all the time is why I am so obsessed with all things Disney. So in true style I thought it would be best to do a massive post about why I am so obsessed with Walt Disney World, then probably go on to do something about Disney in general when I have time. I have to admit, the main reason I am writing this now is because I am getting serious withdrawal from it, and have been watching Disney documentaries all day, so I am all hyped up over it...This is going to be a long best grab a cuppa.

For my family Walt Disney World is the main big holiday that we go on - it is very rare that we actually go anywhere else other than the odd trip to Spain every 5 or so years, or my parents will go off on a jaunt in their little caravan (definitely not a holiday for me!). So there has always been that association of Disney with family time away from the real world with no distractions for anything. No phones, no annoying people (unless you count people who simply cannot queue to save their lives - extremely frustrating), and absolutely no internet whatsoever. You might actually be shocked to hear that I thoroughly enjoy 2 or 3 weeks away from civilisation. But I think that this is mainly due to the fact that I am in Disney as when I was taken to Spain last summer I spent the majority of my time attached to either a computer or a cocktail. 

Walt Disney World is known for being the 'happiest place on earth', something I simply have to agree with wholeheartedly. This spans from the anticipation and waiting from the moment we book our holiday, to the moment we get on the plane, to the moment my feet touch Mickey Mouse ground. For my family, our Disney holiday (or vacation!) starts the moment we get on the train to London Gatwick. This may seem weird to some of you who are probably wondering why the hell my holiday starts on a train, but we all take the train to Gatwick (stopping at Reading) and stay overnight in a hotel near the airport. I definitely feel like I am blabbering and have no idea why I am telling you all this, but I have started so may as well finish. It takes between 9 and 10 hours to get to Florida from London so we always end up getting a ridiculously early flight (something like 6am) which means we have to be at the airport for 3am. As someone who cannot sleep until around 3am I think this is a pretty good time to actually have to be awake for, but then I am so excited I don't sleep for about 48 hours before and after anyways. I'll skip the boring bit about the plane where I tell you I watch a million and one movies and complain continuously about the horrendous plane food, and then bask in the amazingness that is that huge wall of heat that hits you as soon as you walk out of the airport and in to the beautiful Florida sun. We stay in Disney's Port Orleans French Quarter Resort near Downtown Disney which is unbelievably awesome, and a boat ride away from the cool Downtown Disney area. Ok I am literally going to skip all this shit and go straight to the good part.

The main reason I am completely obsessed with Disney World is because of the Magic Kingdom. This really is where dreams come true. You walk down Mainstreet USA to be confronted by the most amazing sight of Cinderella's Castle - the main hub of everything perfect. I think it is just that one moment when you see the castle and you realise where you are - everything else, every worry, every little niggling thought slowly melts away and you just completely forget about absolutely everything. I seriously envy anyone who is going to Disney for the first time, because that is the best experience of any Disney park, and a memory that will stick with you forever. I do also love the fact that the park is split into several different themed lands; Adventureland, Frontierland, Fantasyland, New Fantasyland, Tomorrowland, and Liberty Square. I, of course, have my favourite attractions in Magic Kingdom, as does anyone else you might ask. I am yet to visit New Fantasyland, so all my favourite attractions are before this was built - although I can promise that I have a feeling I will be adding to this list on my next visit. I feel like I need to go there right now to just de-stress. Many people view it as a stressful holiday as you're up everyday around 7.30am, then out until at least midnight for a solid few weeks but I absolutely love it and would have it no other way than to be wandering around all day bathing in Disney magic. 

The fact that Disney World has something to offer absolutely everyone, no matter what age you are, sort of makes it not only appeal to everyone, but mean that I can go until the day I die. The different parks are all themed to different things, and all carry something a little different. Magic Kingdom is obviously where you find most your classic fantasy rides, Epcot is the home of a more futuristic style of ride, along with World Showcase, Animal Kingdom houses many different animal attractions, Hollywood Studios is home of all the big movies, and the two different water parks, Typhoon Lagoon and Blizzard Beach, offer two completely different styles of attractions. Also Downtown Disney offers many different shops, eating places, and many many more things - especially DisneyQuest which is an indoor interactive theme park. I am also going to add in here that the food is out of this world, and no one can make pancakes like Disney World. Oh and pretzels. I bloody love their pretzels.

Disney World is the one place in the entire world where nothing else matters, and I can live out my childhood dreams through every single part of the parks whether it be through attempting to pull King Arthur's sword from the stone, or exploring the different cars at the exit of Test Track. Every time I have been to Disney I have found something I didn't quite see before, and the constant updating of the parks means that there is something new every time. Especially with the development of New Fantasyland and the Animal Kingdom Avatar expansion - both things I will be able to see on my next visit. Don't let anyone ever tell you that you're too old for Disney, because that is just rubbish.

In Magic Kingdom, Mickey's PhilharMagic has to be one of my all time favourite attraction currently at Magic Kingdom as it's a showcase of all your favourite classic Disney characters. Although Pirates of the Caribbean has to be such a close second for me, yo ho yo ho a pirates life for me! Followed by the trio of mountains; Splash Mountain, Big Thunder Mountain Railroad, and Space Mountain

In Epcot, Spaceship Earth definitely holds a place in my heart as my favourite attraction. Obviously The Seas With Nemo and Friends takes major priority in feeding my Nemo obsession. There are also two more attractions that I cannot get enough of in Epcot, and they are Test Track and Journey Into Imagination With Figment - two rides at complete opposite ends of the spectrum, but both brilliant all the same.

Animal Kingdom is where things get interesting with a large collection of attractions and shows. My number one must do is Finding Nemo: The Musical which boasts some of the best numbers in Disney World. Although, a close second and third has to be Expedition Everest and Kilimanjaro Safaris. Both unforgettable experiences whether you're hunting yetis, or on a savanna safari. One last awesome thrill in Animal Kingdom is Kali River Rapids...but you will get unbelievably drenched so get your ponchos out!

Last but by no means least is Hollywood Studios where I have several awesome attractions that you must try out. The first takes you on an adventure through almost every movie you could think of, but just watch out the corner of your eye for something mysterious going on - The Great Movie Ride. The next two are awesome attractions full of action, adventure, and lots of fire - Lights, Motors Action Extreme Stunt Show and Studio Backlot Tour. The final of my favourite attractions involves those cute little Muppets in Muppet*Vision 3D.

I have a feeling I should stop blabbering about Disney now because this could get out of hand. 

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Tuesday, February 11, 2014

Tiny Talk - episode two: relationships

In some sense I feel slightly hypocritical dishing out advice on relationships. My view on them is somewhat tainted given my experience with them, but I guess you could say that I have been through rather a lot with them, so maybe I am a good person to ask for advice. 

So something that a lot of people ask me for advice on is dating; when should I date a guy/girl? When is it right to make it an official relationship? Can I date more than one person at once? A million and one questions always come flying my way, so I am going to attempt to make this column answer almost every question you could think of. 

I think society seems to frown upon the age of which it is seen ideal to start dating...the whole 'you have to be emotionally ready' thing I quite frankly see as bullshit. How can a society as a whole decide on when everyone is ready to date? It varies from person to person, which actually makes this question a lot harder to answer. So I would say that if you feel ready to date someone, then you go ahead! 

I think the issue of dating more than one person is something commonly exaggerated in society. There is a major difference between dating and relationships and the whole cheating thing. If you are only dating someone, I see no issue in dating a few other people along the way. It's when things start to get a bit more serious, and your feelings develop for this one person, that you should really stop to think about whether you should make it an exclusive thing. This is where issues of cheating come in to play. So just make sure both parties are on the same wave length about where you both stand before you see other people, or if you start to feel more for someone then let them know. 

This leads nicely on to when the right time is to make a relationship "official". This is actually something I have always struggled with, and I probably will forever contemplate when the right time actually is. I think it's one of those things where you have to sit down and actually discuss. In those silly high school relationships you don't really need to bother - if you actually end up with them for the rest of your life then you are either really lucky or you have essentially found the right person at the right time. But when it comes to adult relationships then you have to actually communicate, you know...that thing you really hate doing. You can't just wait for someone to be like "do you want to be my girlfriend?" anymore, because it simply doesn't work like that.

There also seems to be a lot of issues in relation to age gaps between people. I think this is something more of personal preference; for example, I tend to date guys who are older than me, but I have friends who date younger people etc.I think the question surrounds what the 'normal' age gap is before it gets branded as weird. I think this tends to affect people more whilst they are younger, in that a relationship between a 15 year old and a 21 year old may be seen as slightly wrong, but when that age gap is applied to people over 20 it doesn't seem so bad. There seems to be some sort of hypocrisy when it comes to age. Personally, I have a restriction on anyone 10 years older than me...which probably seems strange to my younger readers as you tend to date people the same age as you in school. But as you get older, age seems to become irrelevant. So follow your heart - if you like someone, then go for it regardless of their age.

Then comes the all important question that everyone wants to know the answer do you know when someone likes you? I am possibly the worst person to answer this question but I'l give it a shot. I think it's easier to tell with girls because we will just flirt like hell in the hope that the guy will notice. All that eyelash fluttering, and touching, and bla bla bla. Yeah we all do it. Girls if you think you don''re do. I think it harder to tell with guys, because believe it or not, they get shy too! Most guys I think just think that replying to your texts relatively quickly constitutes affection...meh maybe it does...I'd be pretty chuffed if someone continuously replied quickly! I don't know....if they want to spend time with you then I'd say there is something there....God knows.

In slight do you tell someone you like them? Well as we all know I am a very blunt person, so I just tend to tell them...sometimes it takes a drop of alcohol for me to say it because (shockingly) I get nervous too! But I honestly think it's the best way to tell someone. Why beat around the bush and spend hours worrying over confusing mixed signals. The worst thing that can happen is they say they don't like you in that way and you move on from it. So just grow a pair and tell them! 

There is this whole thing that it is traditional for the guy to make the first move. Well I say fuck that. Why can't the girl make the first move? I think I am well-known in my friendship group to always be the one to make the first move. I don't see the issue with the girl asking the guy out for a drink or whatever. I do it all the time - not that I ask a lot of people. It's the same thing with my previous point...the worst that can happen is they say no. Or you can go out for a drink and find out that maybe you didn't like them as much as you thought and then you have had a good chat and a good drink. Winner! People need to stop thinking that this whole traditional ideology of relationships applies...because it doesn't. Whether you think that Prince Charming is going to come swooping by on his bloody unicorn pulled carriage, get down on one knee and propose with this 374839 carat ring, then do that whole movie-star kiss in the rain Just no. That doesn't happen - sorry! Life isn't a Disney movie....make the first move or you might regret it. 

As a girl who has had an overall not amazing experience with relationships, I would quite like some sort of crystal ball to tell me when a guy is an asshole and when he is genuine. I think that a lot of girls, myself included, like this whole bad boy persona. Well I think it's time we all moved away from that...if they have that persona it's likely they're going to be one. For once in my life I think it's time I didn't get messed around and had a nice guy. So I think the one way you can tell if a guy, or a girl for that matter, is an asshole is if they don't pay attention to you. Don't get me wrong, my attention span can be shit a lot of the time, but I pay attention to little details. If someone doesn't pay attention to the things that you like, do, or mention then it's probably not worth it. You deserve someone who does those little things. They don't even have to be romantic things, but if they sit and watch a film you like instead of something they want, then I'd consider that a success. 

I think in relationships and dating you can get really drawn in and not know when the time comes to walk away. This is something I have definitely struggled with and now I look from the other side I sort of kick myself about how long I held on to something that was ruining me. I have major issues with being alone. I don't know why, but I always have - a shocker considering I spend all my time in my room on my laptop....But I think that you need to put yourself first in these situations. If you aren't happy in your relationship, and things aren't what they used to be then maybe it's time to walk away. It will be difficult, especially if you are close to that person and have been with them for a long time, but someone can only love you as much as you love yourself, and if you aren't happy then it sort of speaks for itself....Also if someone treats you like shit then just go. Just let it go and find someone who loves you for you and treats you like a prince or princess, because those people do exist. You always find what you're looking for when you stop searching.

My final point is how to deal with a bad breakup. Now this I can most definitely offer you advice on. 2 out of 3 of my breakups have been seriously hard on me, and in my last one I did the worst thing I think I could have done. I literally drowned myself in alcohol for 2 solid weeks and did pretty much nothing else. Now I would not offer this to you as a solution because it isn't healthy and I ended up being ill after. I didn't focus on the problem at hand, I just ignored it in the hope that it would go away. It didn't. In fact, I came out worse the other side of the drink to what I went in. So my solution is to get a load of friends around you, grab a shit ton of food, and stick on your favourite film. No one ever solved anything completely alone. Someone offered me some great advice when I went through mine - keep living until you are alive again. I have stuck to that ever since. So if you are going through a bad breakup, or know someone who is, just offer them that. It did me the world of good.

A piece of advice by my lovely chummy, Little Boots, is that misery loves company. So there is a fantastic excuse to have all your friends over!

I am going to stop now, because this Tiny Talk has turned in to a Tremendous Talk, so sorry about that.

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