Showing posts with label planning. Show all posts
Showing posts with label planning. Show all posts

Thursday, December 27, 2018

Resolutions

Normally I am not one to make resolutions, or bother with this "new year, new me" shit. I once made a resolution to stop swearing...within a few minutes several versions of the word "fuck" had escaped my mouth and from then on I never bothered.

This year, I am giving in. 

I am making a resolution. Or two. OK, three. 

I hope you are rolling your eyes at me as hard as I am right now.

My resolution, as I admitted, is three-pronged.

First, physicality. 

It is highly obvious that I am marginally overweight, despite my doctor telling me otherwise. I have an amazing holiday coming up that I would rather not look like a slightly melted marshmallow stuffed inside a pair of shorts for. So, I am pledging to you that I am going to lose weight. How much? I would like to lose around two and a half stone by December next year. I would like to have lost at least one and a half stone by the end of July, just before I go on holiday. This time I won't do it for six months, lose a stone, get bored then pile it all back on plus extra. I am going to enjoy my last few days of eating all the shit leftover from Christmas whilst I can!

How am I going to do it? Well, conveniently, in order to save for my holiday, pay my bills and survive, I will be living on £12 a week from 1st January. This means I can't necessarily buy all the shit I would usually snack on, or treat myself to the odd take out. I will be buying the same basic ingredients every single week until August - partly out of choice, mostly because I have to. I will also be using my dogs as an exercise tool, making the most out of the walks we go on. I am poor enough that I can't afford the gym, so I will be doing a home workout of some sorts every night after walking the dogs. This means a lot of planning, which I have started to do now so watch this space!

Second, mentality.

I have made no secret on here of my mental health struggles over the last few months. I have already started attempting to work on these, but it is going to be a long uphill battle to the finish line. So, I am pledging to you that I promise to do more of what makes me happy, and less of what doesn't. I am going to try and spend more time working on writing both my blog and my book which has been a great tool to channel my thoughts in to. 

I will try to stop taking on too much when I know I can't handle it; I will do the mental exercises that I have been set; I will try to stop getting stressed about the unknown; I will spend more time working on me. I have slowly learned to accept help when I know I need it, so I am going to continue working with that help to get myself back on the right track.

Third, eventuality.

I am a planner. A serious one at that. When I can't plan for something, or the plan doesn't come through it gives me anxiety. It makes me feel uneasy, on edge and unable to function properly. This is what I am dealing with at the moment. Essentially, this works happily, or not so, alongside mentality. My family have always joked that I am too much of a planner and I need to plan everything; I am a sucker for a list and I plan things down to the last second. In a situation like I am in now where it is impossible to plan for anything apart from tomorrow, I am pretty much useless. It would appear that this could be the main cause of my mental health issues at the moment, which hopefully will improve shortly. I need to get past this hurdle in my life. I am at a crossroads and I have no fucking clue where to go with it. I need to sell my house, but the market is slow. I need to save money, but I am paying stupid money a month on my house. I need to find a new house, but I can't do that until I sell this one. It is an endless cycle and even now typing this, I am feeling uneasy about everything. 

So, how does this fit in with resolutions? I need to plan slowly for any eventuality; keeping my options open but being prepared for anything that may come my way. I am being organised and trying to get my ducks in a row and I am sincerely hoping that I am going to be able to type this post bloody happier next year. 

2019 cannot come soon enough, I am so fucking done with this year! I am currently planning (shock) how to go about all of the above and look forward to sharing and whining with and at you next year. 

I still say resolutions are a pile of shit, but here we go! 

Thursday, May 29, 2014

Year two roundup and summery update

I have realised that this is my 100th post - yay!

First of all I have to make an apology, and a future apology, for my significant lack of blogging. My hard drive on my laptop corrupted *sniff sniff*, so I am currently in the process of stealing different laptops from my family until I have the money to get a new one. It looks like we may be here for a while as I have decided to get a mac *waves goodbye to money*. I am finding other people's laptops increasingly frustrating to handle because of the weird lack of spacing between keys, so this will be fun.

So what has happened in the last few weeks? Well I have finished my second year of university - finally! It has been a significant amount of ups and downs, some worse than others, but here I am still standing! Exams as per usual were living hell and I was so glad to get a rather large volume of alcohol down my throat at the end of it (and a pretty lush curry and milkshake - interesting combo). I am currently waiting on the results of two exams before I decide how well the year went overall, but now I need to start thinking about next year.

I have the joys of figuring out what I want to write my dissertation on (12,000 words of complete bull most the time). Luckily I have a vague idea of what I want to do, so hopefully that will all come together. I've also got to put together an agenda for events to do throughout the year, so I should probably get on that really...

And I go back to work in two weeks for the remaining duration of the summer, so I wave goodbye to spare time, but hello to a hella lot of money, whoopee! So that means new laptop, money towards my after uni plans, and new clothes! Maybe this calls for a haul post...who knows?....

Tomorrow I am off to Bristol for the day, so I may do a cheeky little post about that considering I get to go to one of my all time favourite places to eat - Za Za Bazaar. If you are ever in the Bristol (or Newcastle area for that fact!) go grab something there, it's sooooo good!


Ok, so what do the next few months mean for Lovelychubly?

I have a great few months lined up for you between now and September. I can promise you that you will get at least one post per week, but mostly two. I am starting a new weekly series with the lovely IsThataRedHerring where we have taken up a fitness challenge as motivation to lose some weight ready for next year. So keep up to date with that via both of our pages, we'll link you to each one so you can see how we are doing. Don't forget to comment with any tips on how to lose weight etc because we're going to need the motivation!

I have also got a Disney tag lined up in the next few weeks thanks to LittleBoots so hopefully that will be up soon.

I am also planning on doing a second part to my 22 fictional deaths I'll never get over. Possibly with a few different posts surrounding that as you lot seem to really enjoy that post! 

Also some suggestions of things that you want to see would be lovely so that I can keep my content up to date! I am thinking of doing some sort of weekly "follow me" style post so you can see what I get up to if I do anything interesting. Unfortunately for me, most of my time will be spent at work so only two days a week will be running around trying to be exciting. So I'll try my best to do cool things!

It's also coming up to my blog's first birthday soon - how time flies, gosh! So I might do some awesome funky post thing. There is a possibility I am going to create a Facebook like page where you can find all my things in one place, so if you like this idea do let me know!


I think that is everything for now. Stay tuned for the next few days to see my first annoying fitness thingy which starts on Monday. So I must wave toodle-oo to all my favourite unhealthy things; wish me luck!

As always thank you for reading, and all my little links are over on the right.

Stay cheery and I shall speak to you next time!






Wednesday, January 01, 2014

2014 plans

A lot of people enter every new year with these so called "resolutions" in order to improve themselves or an aspect of their lives. I think these are rubbish because no one ever keeps to them and most people have usually broken them by like January 5th, so I don't bother. Instead I make some sort of plan. Now I know you are probably thinking that it's the same as a resolution, but that is where you are wrong! A resolution implies that it is something to be continued throughout the year, whereas a plan is something that is an ongoing thing and I don't feel under any pressure to do it in just the one year.

So in true form I thought that there could be no better people than to share my plans with than my lovely readers. If you manage to read through this completely and not either think I am an idiot, or decide to unsubscribe then you get a bunny rabbit wearing a top hat as a reward. 

The first sort of plan is that I want to do more things for me. The last year and a bit were all about me making decisions based upon someone else who quite clearly did not reciprocate - although at the time it seemed as if they did. Looking back on the last god knows how long, I was unhappy, unstable and not myself. That's a big thing for me I think, I have and always will be true to myself, but I let one person manipulate and control how I felt and what I did and that is not how I want to live my life. I am a very independent person: I will not ask for help, I will almost never take advice, and I am as stubborn as they come, but that is me and I very much doubt I will change. So from now on it's going to be a matter of doing what makes me happy, not what makes someone else happy. 

On a relatively similar note I want to be a lot more comfortable in my own skin. As a female I find myself at a constant struggle with the attention on appearance. As a twenty-something year old I also find this something that I have to deal with on a daily basis. I have said numerous times in different posts about not letting other people's ideals influence how you feel about yourself, so now I am actually going to start taking that advice. I want to be more comfortable with my body - I am never going to be a six foot size bloody 0 model. I am a normal, curvy woman with fucking ass and boobs, so who should go around telling me that because I am chubby I shouldn't be happy? Well boo-fucking-hoo to whoever makes up those rules, please go shove them where the sun doesn't shine thank you very much. 

The last personal note I will include on this one, and I shan't go in to much detail because my private life will remain private. But for once I don't want to fuck something up, or be the cause of pushing someone away as that seems to be a common denominator in the last 5 years. I can honestly say that right now I am the happiest I have been in a good 6 or 7 years now, and I want the reason for that to be there for as long as they want to stay there. So that will probably mean the likes of my blog will take a bit of a back seat because it does take over my life quite a lot, and I shouldn't let it. But yes, I digress, I am a happy bunny at the moment, and I look forward to seeing what the future brings to this little part of my life.

Anyway moving on from that completely, we turn to my blog. As you can probably see I have had a few overhauls in the last month or so. I have changed my design a fair amount and I do quite like the way Lovelychubly looks now. I think it looks a lot more professional than the overcrowded mess it was a while back. So I think there are a few developments that I want to make on here.

First of all I actually want to crack on with How It Should Have Ended because I have been saying that I am going to be writing it from day one and I have been so busy with work and university that I just haven't found the time to sit down and properly plan everything. But I have changed the direction that I am going to go with it - an update shall follow soon. Hopefully I will have it completely fully written within the next 7 months and it will hopefully be published not long after that! Don't frown and think that it's a long time...it takes a lot of time and effort to sit down and write a novel so keep your eyes peeled for little snippets here there and everywhere. Also if any of you are still interested in illustrating it then get hold of me by clicking any of my social media links on the sidebar. 

I also have another little series tucked up my sleeve. As you know I study criminology at university, which is completely unrelated to writing. So I thought why don't I combine the two and start a little chapter-by-chapter thing on my blog which, when completed, will essentially be a book? So that is what I am going to do. I will be looking at writing some sort of detective style crime novel, but specifics and whatnot are quite fuzzy at the moment so keep your eyes peeled there, too!

I think that is everything mainly to be honest. There are obviously little lifestyle habits I want to kick but they are completely boring and utter nonsense for you guys so I saved you some time there.

I just want to take a quick moment to say a little something to you all:

I originally started Lovelychubly just as a place to vent my thoughts and to have a little rant; never did I expect that it would take off to the level that it is now. I have gone from a crappy little blog to a full on website in the space of 6 months, and I have been offered so many different opportunities because of my writing becoming so popular. For this I have you all to thank. My posts could never have got to where they are without the audience who read them, so thank you very much to all of you! If I could hug all 12, 000 of you I would! I hope that you do keep coming back to see what Lovelychubly has in store for you, and I promise I will get back to my regular posts soon enough. Hope you had a lovely new year and didn't get too drunk, you messy lot!

As always thank you for reading. All my social media links are over in the sidebar, and do feel free to share and comment and all those annoying little things I ask you to do all the time. 


Goodnight, lovelies. 

Monday, July 29, 2013

Reasons why I am an annoying person

Hello there, buddies.

I did have a slightly more interesting post planned for today, but it is absolutely hammering it down outside so I thought that I might treat you to two posts today! Aren't you lucky! I thought I might start with this one as it is slightly more upbeat given that my other one is a monster of a rant, so you have that to look forward to.

The title of this post is slightly weird and deceiving, isn't it? I promise you I am not going to sit here and tell you all the bloody reasons why you shouldn't be friends with me (although that is probably what you're thinking?). I am going to do a post about all my annoying little habits that I have.

This could go two ways: you could either think "ah yay, I do these things too, lets be friends!" or you could think "you are a freak, never talk to me". Soooo.....I am hoping that it is the first one, but you can't please everyone I guess.

So here we go!


I have road rage
Yeah, I get really bad road rage. Not to the point where I zoom around like a fucking idiot in my car, but I just scream at everyone. Especially if there is traffic. I hate traffic. I hate traffic even more if there are people who insist on cutting you up - that really ruffles my feathers. I'd say I am a pretty good driver, and I don't let my screaming affect that, but I have sworn at a few people who have been driving badly.....Sorry.

I almost never turn my laptop off
I have a feeling that it might be why my last one broke....but I am pretty much on my laptop for every single moment that I am awake (blogger problems) so I never really have reason to turn it off. It does really get its use, doesn't it? I sometimes turn it off at night, but not all the time. I have a feeling all you tech people are probably screaming at me right now...I am sorry, I will try to turn it off every day.

I make lists for everything
This is not an exaggeration. My room is full of lists of pretty much anything. It does keep me organised though because if it is written down then I feel I have an obligation to do it. It has to be handwritten though, it can't be on my phone otherwise it just won't get done. Terrible, I know. You should see the millions of lists I have for my blog. 

I correct grammar all the time
My friends refer to be as a "grammar Nazi" because everywhere I go, if I see incorrect grammar it will just bug me for ages until it is set right. I think I might have OCD about grammar or something? I literally have no idea why, it might have something to do with the fact that I do like to write? As a rule, I am a well-spoken person (having been told this consistently the other night by loads of people) so things like slang and whatnot really piss me off. I am awful. Even if I don't know you, or I have just met you, I will correct your grammar. It has its pluses though as I get to do a lot of proofreading for things to make sure everyone's grammar is up to scratch.

I have to have my duvet dead straight
I don't know why this is, but if I am making my bed I have to make sure my duvet is completely flat and straight. There can't be any crinkles in it and it can't be half on the floor. It just has to be showroom perfect. Please tell me you guys are like this, too?

I am addicted to Nandos
I drove 40 minutes to get to a Nandos once...dedication. I need to get a discount there or something. If there is a possibility of going to a Nandos then I am right on it. I don't think I will ever turn down a Nandos.

I am never off my laptop or the internet
I think this might be a blogger problem....maybe I should do a post about this? I am never off the internet. If I am not on my laptop then I am on my phone - it is seriously that bad. My dad told me the other day to get a life and get off my laptop, to which I replied that I had a life on the internet. I often wonder how I have any friends. Maybe this is the reason why I am single?

I plan everything
I am a big planner and I like to have my day organised and know what I am doing. It's terrible - I even plan my days when I am on holiday. I really hate being caught off-guard like today. I had a day planned out where I went shopping to get some food after taking the dog out, then I woke up to a storm....now I can't do any of those things and I was sort of stumped on what to do. I am really starting to think I have OCD....

I live in a sort of dream world
In my head I like to think that certain scenarios are actually possible, like marrying a YouTuber or actually being able to afford to go travelling after university. But in reality I am never going to meet a YouTuber to the point where it forms a relationship, am I? And I will be up to my eyeballs in debt after university with little chance of getting a job anyway given the economic climate, so I am just going to sit here and watch my dreams sail out the window.

I get depressed when my rugby team lose
I am a big supporter of the Welsh rugby team, and on the odd occasion that they lose a match, I get very depressed. For example, last autumn when we were playing Australia and we lost in the last 30 seconds of the match, I got so depressed that I went home and drank a whole bottle of vodka to forget about the fact that we lost. Then again, I did the same thing when we won the Six Nations, so it goes either way really.

I don't like bacon
Please don't kill me. I just don't like it. I like bacon flavoured things though, just not bacon itself. I don't know why. I am going to run away now before you all kill me.

I dust around objects rather than move them
This might be laziness, but when I am dusting my room I dust around things rather than move them to dust everywhere. I probably should move them considering the fact that I have really bad allergies but I just cannot be bothered.

I drink a lot of Pepsi Max
I am addicted and everyone knows it. I even get given Pepsi Max as birthday and Christmas presents, and my entire family knows that they need to stock it if I am going round. If I don't have at least one glass a day I get really cranky and I get shaky. That is how bad my addiction goes. Pepsi, if you are reading this I think I should be given some sort of free Pepsi for my addiction. Just saying.

I would rather stay in bed and do nothing than see people
I am not even anti-social, but I would rather lounge at home sometimes than go out my house and interact with real people. This is the sign of a true internet addict...


Well then, folks, I hope you don't hate me after that....

If you do the same as me on any of those then leave your comments below or tweet me @LovelyChubly telling me all about it so that I don't feel like such a loser.

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Toodle-oo!