27 Things I Learned Recently

1. Life is not a movie. 
2. No matter how long and how well you think you know someone, they will surprise you. Might be good. Might be bad. 
3. Don't spend your time trying to please someone who has no intention or desire to please you.
4. Dogs, Dads and Grampy's are usually the only men who will never do anything to hurt you.
5. A good sing along at a concert at the top of your lungs to songs you love can make you feel good.
6. It is OK to get overly excited about things you love. 
7. You are a lot stronger than you give yourself credit for.
8. Friends come from all over the place. You might not have spoken to them properly for six years, yet when you need them, they will always be there. 
9. You should be proud of yourself.  
10. Do not rely on someone else for your happiness. Once you stop doing things to make you happy and start doing things with the sole purpose of making someone else happy, you are no longer happy.
11. It is OK to cry. 
12. Not everyone is going to love you as much as you love them. 
13. Get dressed, put on some makeup and a smile. It works wonders. 
14. It is OK to have a down day. It won't always be plain sailing. 
15. A proposal and a ring doesn't mean someone loves you enough to spend their whole life with you. 
16. The small things in life count.  
17. A house is not always a home. 
18. Sometimes the people you love the most are the ones to hurt you the most. 
19. It is OK to vent about things that frustrate you. If people are getting sick of it, they aren't worth keeping around. 
20. You need to let go. 
21. A relationship is a two-way street, not a one-way road. 
22. Heartbreak can make you stronger.
23. Somewhere there is someone out there who will adore you as much as you adore them.
24. Life goes on.
25. A cup of tea can fix a myriad of different problems. 
26. Life is a roller coaster full of ups, downs, loops and drops. But you always know as soon as you get to the bottom of the drop, you are on your way back up.
27. You deserve better than this. 

A letter to my future self

Dear me, myself, and I

There is no better time to write something that you will look back on in the future than when your head is full of thoughts of the year just gone. A new year is not a time for a new you, but a time for you to improve upon what you have become. 

So in the following points of advice, older and most likely wiser Chubs, I wonder whether you still live by these minor, yet vitally important snippets of things I have learned thus far in life.

I wonder what you're up to. 

Did you ever figure out what you wanted to do with your life, or are you still hopelessly blogging with a not-so-secret wish of being spotted? Most likely.

How long did it take you to move out? I bet it was absolutely nothing like you thought it would be.

Did you ever get that pug? I bloody hope so.

So, future me. These are a few things I hope you listened to and swear by. If not...see you in hell.

First of all, and one of the most important things I really hope you realised: you are not perfect, you never will be. And that is fine. Accept yourself for who you are, and if you're not happy try to change it. Your imperfections may just be perfections to someone else. Who knows?

Don't be afraid to admit when you might need help. Later on down the line, you will regret not asking for it sooner. Apply this to everything in your life and you will go much further than struggling on your own.

Crying doesn't make you weak. End of.

You are your own worst enemy. No one will ever see you in such as negative light as your reflection does to you. At least try to be  positive about yourself. Confidence is key.

You can change your weight, all it takes is a little motivation. But at the same time, some numbers on a scale don't define you.

Always take the stairs. See point above.

Embrace your own happiness. Do one thing every day that makes you happy, and that'll make you feel better.

A smile costs nothing. Smile at a stranger, smile at your boss, heck, smile at your dog.

Not everyone you meet is going to like you, and not everyone who likes you will you want to meet. This is a given, and you can't change it no matter how much you want to.

Keep that dream alive. Don't shun something because of money.

Talking of money, it isn't the be all and end all. But save it, spend it, do something spontaneous with it. Just like your weight, how much money you have doesn't define you.

Don't listen to anyone but yourself. If something feels right then go for it, deal with the consequences later.

Follow your heart, but don't ignore your head. Apply to everything, no excuses.

Don't be afraid to go outside your comfort zone. Those boundaries are set to be broken.

Being a nerd is most definitely not a bad thing. Embrace your intelligence and you will go far.

But at the same time, just because you aren't as good at one thing, it doesn't mean you're a failure. Learn from your mistakes, and try again.

Don't give up. On anything. Ever.

Keep your head high when you feel like sinking. 

Do something that you want to do, not something someone else wants you to do. And if someone says you can't do it, do it even better.

Learn to say "no".

But also learn to say "yes".

Don't be afraid of your own emotions. It's OK to feel like crap sometimes, and it's OK to not want to get out of bed.

Let your guard down, even if it is just for a few hours. 

Think before you do, and think before you speak.

And finally, always get enough sleep. You'll thank me for that later.


So, future me, what do you think? I think it's a pretty solid thing to live by, and by the sounds of it it's served you well.

Live is for living, so grab it by the horns!

Here's until next time.

Enjoy the cake, Chubs!

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